Join A Group You Care About

A sense of loneliness tends to precede the development of depression.

And depression often includes the symptom of loneliness along with isolation.

Since my early days as a counselor, my mentors instructed me to encourage depressed clients to get out and around people. At the very least, a friendly interaction with someone might occur and lift their mood.

It turns out that being part of a group helps to ward off depression, but it must be a group to which the person identifies and feels connected.

Multiple studies have shown that higher levels of group identification were related to lower levels of depressive symptoms.

Group membership can be a treatment intervention for depression.

In a 2013 study of over 4000 adults over the age of 50, those who were depressed and joined one group reduced their risk of depression relapse from 41 percent to 31 percent. Joining two groups reduced the risk to 21 percent. And with three groups, the risk dropped to 15 percent.

For group membership to be effective at decreasing depression, people have to closely identify with the group and feel connected to it, not just physically be around a group of people.

Groups help by offering support and a sense of purpose.

Some groups, however, do not protect. Groups that revolve around a destructive focus such as self-harm, substance abuse or a sense of victimization are groups to break away from.

Currently in my life, I am part of a group of people who work together as a team with the purpose of helping people get through emotional crises. I also am a part of online groups of handmade artists which actively support and encourage each other.

Go ahead and find your favorite group(s) and know you are contributing to your own and others’ well-being.

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/depressed-try-the-social-cure/

Becoming Enlightened By Hanging a Light

I hung up a shop light today. I had purchased it months ago. It was often on my mind that it needed to be put up. But my luck with simple little household projects has not been very good. Usually, it is the attaching to a wall that just doesn’t work out. So I wanted the shop light installed, but I dreaded the possibility of a botched job. I doubted my ability to do that basic work.

It could be a quick project of possibly half an hour, but not in my case. First, I had to move piles of stuff that had landed in front of and on the table that I wanted the light to be above. Then I pulled the table out from the wall so a ladder could be set up. While I had things pulled out, it was time to sweep up the dirt. Then, it turned out I did not have all of the hardware I needed. As I drove to two different stores to find ceiling hooks, I countered my negativity about wasting time with thoughts of this being part of the fun. I will frequently make a run to the craft store without thoughts of wasting time. Why not enjoy a trip to the hardware store?

I climbed up the ladder with the new drill I had obtained at Christmas and still had not tried out five months later. I felt awkward balancing on a ladder. I felt awkward using a drill. I felt uncertain I was anchoring the screw enough that it would hold. I had to get reading glasses to see well enough to attach a pull chain to the light. I wondered if pulling that chain over time would be enough to cause the hanging screws to come loose. It all went into place and, for the time being, seemed secure enough.

This little project took three hours to complete. I got some space organized in the garage. I enjoyed the fresh spring air with the garage door open while I worked. I browsed through hardware stores and had new ideas. I practiced my handyman skills once more and seemed to do a little better than the last time I tried. I felt satisfied with my work space which will allow me to try out some electric wood working tools and learn a new craft. It always amazes me how a simple little project provides so much personal growth. It seems odd that to most observers there would be little understanding of the negative self-assessments which were overcome in order to complete it. And once again, it is a marker of my independence and self-sufficiency I keep proving while being single and managing on my own. I am tentative and anxious, but little by little, I gain some confidence. Definitely time well spent!